They say my baby girl is diagnosed with ADHD and SID

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It is challenging when Rara is the only child at home few months back. She could not self entertain and heavily dependent on us, the parent or family member to keep her entertained. My in law family then label her as “abnormal activeness” “highly dependent” “attention seeker” and etc. They also said that my baby girl have temper problem because she often get angry and throw herself on floor. At the end, SID and ADHD came out from my BIL mouth saying, maybe Rara is having self injury disorder and hyperactive disorder. I was worried on all the comments that they throw on my child and I almost breakdown at that point of time. 

Panic, sad and helpless. I went to consult my paediatric, Dr Khoo at SJMC.

When I first go in to the clinic and start bursting out like a panic-freak-out mum, my paed just smile and say, “you should worry when your baby girl is quiet, highly independent and introvert at the age of 13mo!” I dumbed for a second. She explains that it is very common for a young toddler to be so active. However, I still insist that my baby may have ADHD as people around me keep telling me that Rara is different from other kids (i.e. compared to my husband when he is young).

Looking at me almost tearing, my paed suggest that I go for a simple test to see whether is it true that Rara is having ADHD and SID.

Remember vividly, there are a few question that I need to answer. It is a long list of questionnaire with multiple choice. It goes from the rating 1 to 5 for about 25 questions. Some of the questions are (that I can remember of) whether your child have disorganised problems, could not sit still for 30seconds (i remember searching for Rara video and observed if there’s any 30sec!), fidgety, fail to finish things that she started, demand need to be met immediately (having hard time with this question because i actually called and ask my MIL) and etc. 

There a score chart that determine the level of ADHD. Paed says Rara condition is not worrying. It is just purely an active toddler. 

As for SID, it is not commonly found in young children. Research shows SID can only be found as young as 7 year old child however, it is not conclusive. 

The conclusion made by the my paed is that observe for another 1 year – if the condition persist then have to check if Rara is diagnosed with Bi-Polar which is often confused as ADHD and SID (combination of both).

Paedetric bipolar disorder are scarce. You hardly can find a good one in Malaysia that major in this area. But if you do suspect, do pay Dr Koo a visit. She may help. 

 

How to keep my toodler seated for 10mins – entertainment for unprepared wedding dinner

Dread of long wedding dinner? 

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I bet every parent that is under stress from the activeness level of our young toddler during dinner time / outing have somehow force us resorting HANDOVER THE IPAD to our young ones. In fact, it is a surrender act because we are so desperate to make them sit quietly just for one minute!

When I go out with my 20mo, it is a forever battle for me to have a peaceful meal. However, as times goes by and with my husband help, I do realise there are a few ways that we can actually make them sit quietly for a while.

Let me share with you what I did when I brought Rara to a wedding reception recently – when I go unprepared except for a sticker book. Do not ever go unprepared because I am just lucky this round that she actually behave – to my surprise until the very last 30mins before she was “reactivated”. 

Food

I gave Rara milk one hour before we start the dinner. When the first dish is served, she is actually excited to see food. Well I do not usually let her eat out much but guess a little bit unhealthy won’t hurt. I decided to her feed herself. With a napkin around her, it save her little dress from mess. This also helps to improve her BLW. While she enjoying her food, i survived till the second dish.

Stickers and loads and loads of them

Bought 3 stickers books at RM10. I let her put on the stickers on herself and all around the high chairs and daddy’s arm. Of course Rara did not finish all the 3 stickers books as she actually lost interest after the second page. But it still works fine because I already finish up my third dish. 

Napkin origami fun time

There are napkin all over so I decided to make good use of them. I fold and make Rara some nice origami and she love them.  This can occupied her a while even thou she start tearing all the napkin apart. Then, I request a pen for Rara and make her start drawing on it. Honestly, I do not really know what she drew (or write?!) but it is just cute 😛 #biasmum Without realising, I have come to my fifth dish.

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Cup and Ice 

Kids love ice. They just simply love it. Request a cup and ice and let her play with it. It won’t get a messy other than a little bit wet. It is manageable. 

Cards and my little wristlet 

Not sure why but she is very obssess with small wristlet. She just could not resist it. Knowing her, I take out my money and left all my cards inside. Rara will take out, put in, take it out, put in and …. Yea, she took 10mins to enjoy the process of the taking out and putting it back. 

Get some help around

There’s always friend around so – get some help. Pass your little girl around your friends. Each of my friend entertained her for 10mins and that give me a peaceful 40mins of enjoying my meal. This settled the rest of my dinner.

Catwalk all around

Well, the last 30mins was actually Rara time where she has “reactivated” her active mood. So I let her catwalk all around. Luckily there’s a lot of small kids and Rara enjoyed their company.

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Malaysia 2015 calendar – 11 Long weekends & Local weekend getaway

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Credit source: http://magazine.tripzilla.com/long-weekends-malaysia-2015/9006

Let’s plan for road trips & trips & trips!!

Yes you are right. It’s gonna be 11 trips, at least!

With this 11 long weekends I have so much in my mind of where to go and how to get about.. Long weekend is awesome for young mum like me (and you) because we do not have to apply long leave. Just grab your bag and two toddlers (not forgetting my super maid) – BANG the road!

Where to visit with my two little girls..

  1. KLCC Aquarium
  2. Genting
  3. Cameron Highland
  4. Tambun Lost World
  5. KL Bird Park
  6. Farm in the City
  7. Desaru
  8. Lego Land
  9. Hello Kitty Land
  10. Langkawi + Penang
  11. Port Dickson
  12. Malacca

I am actually planning how to get there and where to go about on all these places so please stay tune!

Please share with me if you have any good local trips!

Sharing is caring,

xoxo

Milk booster – Over night oatmeal

Searching high and low, I come across this awesome delicious milk booster.

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Source: http://www.theyummylife.com/Refrigerator_Oatmeal

Look delicious right? I decided to give it a try.

My own recipe as follows:

  • 4 tablespoon of rolled oat
  • 3 tablespoon of greek yogurt
  • 3 tablespoon of chia seed
  • 3 tablespoon of flax seed
  • 1 tablespoon of VCO
  • 1 small cup of milk
  • variety of fruits

I modify this to become my milk booster.

FAQ

  • Why rolled oat? Because it gonna soak overnight so this will taste better.
  • Must use greek yogurt? Not necessary. I tried flavored yogurt too and it taste good even without fruits.
  • Chia seed and flax seed can be more than 3 tablespoon. It actually taste much nicer.
  • VCO increase the fragrance of the oat.
  • Fruits that I put in normally is mango, strawberry and grape. When I serve, I will add on apple, banana or pineapple.
  • Nuts such as almond – I crush it and serve as topping. Yummylicoius!

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Happy Moo Moo mummies 🙂

My breastfeeding journey Ep 2 – How to success breastfeeding?

Do you have these obstacles?

  • My confinement lady do not support breast feeding.
  • My parent in law do not support breast feeding.
  • My parent and family do not support breast feeding.

That’s enough for you to fail. When you try to breast feed your child under such circumstances, trust me, it is so so tough. Tougher than struck lottery.

How to breastfeed successfully?

Soon as I know I am pregnant, I look for a breast feeding friendly confinement lady (Right #1). She helped me a lot and encourage me to keep feeding and never supplement with formula (Right #2). She told me this,

Olden day there are no formula and we all lived well. You are here, I am here, we all survive. What do you think our parents feed us when there are no formula?

You can read my review on my confinement lady here.

Also, I purposely left my pump back in the city. So that I can’t pump (Right #3) in the first 2 weeks. With this, I can only direct latch my baby (Right #4). Direct latch is the most critical thing to make sure you build a strong base in your breast feeding journey. You just have to hang on and HANG ON and hang on for the first few weeks. Especially the growth spurt weeks.

Baby will normally have their growth spurt on week 3, 5-6, 8, 12, 16. Soon you pass thru the 4th month, breast feeding is like a breeze.

Have the correct positive mindset.

I keep telling myself..

  • I have milk
  • I have sufficient milk for my baby
  • Supply = demand = supply
  • Relax and feed
  • Baby cry do not necessary means baby is hungry
  • Baby stomach equal to my supply as days goes by

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TRUST ME. EVERYONE HAVE MILK.

 

She bakes and paint to raise fund for her sister treatment

Leah bakes and paints to raise fund for Adele, her little sister who is brain injured so that Adele can go for her IAHP treatment. 

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As first when I come across this little girl, I told myself well it is just another unfortunate family. What actually impress me is that, they are not just another unfortunate family. They are a family that in fact – more fortunate than anyone of us. Why?

Adele, the little sister, has actually bring the family closer together. Closer than any of us, our family. She bring out the big heart of her sister, Leah and the bond in the family. Instead of asking people for fund donation like what we always see in the newspaper, Leah go extra mile by painting and baking just to raise fund for Adele’s treatment. Kudos Leah!

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Photos are from Leah’s page.

https://www.facebook.com/chefleahwithabigheart/timeline

 

If you want to know more about Adele, this is what wrote by the mummy,

Adele our 2nd angel was at 35 weeks and was diagnosed with Microcephaly when she turned 2 months old. CT Scan shown that she had multiple spots of calcifications in her brain where the medical team suspect it to be due to CMV Virus infection. After a few rounds of blood tests, there were no evidence that it was due to CMV Virus. That was the darkest moment of my life. I was hopeless and was not able to seek any support group that is able to assist me with all the questions that were floating in my mind. 


I started posting my experiences and Adele’s progress on some of the closed groups such as Mummies Connect and was surprised by the amount of support, personal emails as well as mums who have wrote to me seeking for ideas and sharing. I then realized that a group such as this is would benefit everyone as we share our experiences, achievements, trials and ideas.
This group is open to everyone who is keen to understand and who is able to support us by sharing your expertise, giving us guidance and most importantly walking with Adele through this journey to wellness. Adele will be embarking on a very interesting journey where she will work very very hard to maximize her brain potential. We have just been given an appointment at the Institutes of the Achievement of Human Potential in Philadelphia and will be taking her there this November. Do join this group or follow us on our blog as as we pen down her activities, challenges and victories. We hope Adele will be an inspiration to everyone that may cross her path. 


Love,
Choy, Mei and Leah

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This is the photo of Leah and Adele.

 

This coming Christmas, Leah will be taking orders. Will you share some love of yours?

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Order from here,

https://www.facebook.com/chefleahwithabigheart/timeline