My breastfeeding friendly confinement lady

Soon as I know I am pregnant, I have started looking for “MY” confinement lady. Phobia of tradition confinement that I faced last round, I decided to hunt for a confinement lady that fit “MY Style”. She have to be a breastfeeding friendly and knowledgeable person and DO NOT start nagging me on all the pantang-ish things to do and not to do.

Finally I found “HER” 🙂

During my first confinement, I am not allowed to shower (Chinese believe that if you come in touch with water during the this period, you will have Rheumatism in future), stand or sit up for long (saying that it will weaken our bone or “expand” it causing a bigger hips) and only certain foods are allowed.

With my confinement lady help, she help me to overcome all the totally absolutely rubbish hardship.



She allowed me to take balanced diet. Which means, vegetables and fruits allowed on my plate (Yes, it is awesome!). I ate vegetables and fruits – which all these are the forbidden food as what mentioned by my first confinement lady. Well, in fact, my confinement lady admit that it is true that some of the vegetables are not good as they are too “cooling” for postpartum. However, there are certain type of vegetable and fruits that I can eat.

  1. Broccoli (White and Green)
  2. Spinach (Green and Red)
  3. Carrot
  4. Capsicum
  5. Long bean
  6. Mushroom (All types)

Also there is only one type of fruit allowed.

  1. Apple

My confinement aunty also make some delicious milk boosting dessert for me.

  1. Red bea (Only red!)
  2. Pumpkin soup
  3. Fungus lotus soup
  4. Papaya fungus soup



 Baby Routine & Breast feeding.

A good well knowledge confinement lady does an awesome job not only on food but also help me a lot on my breastfeeding journey. Get it right on the first time, I would say you have conquer a successful breastfeeding journey – at least half of it.

How she do it?

She help me make a good routine for my baby. From my first and third week only direct latch – no pumping. As I am still weak due to postpartum, she encourage co sleep and dream feed baby so that I can rest while feeding. Fourth week is the week that I pump and feed via bottle at night. From then on, my baby will sleep with her. She advise this routine because my baby will sleep in a separate room when I goes back to work. Therefore, she help me train my baby in this way.

At first, my baby will scream out of her lung when bottle feed but things get better as days goes by. Trust me 🙂

She taught me how to bottle feed.

  • Ask your partner / baby caretaker feed for you so that you can have some rest time, also to train your baby to accept soothing from others
  • Change teat and bottles that your baby prefer – I used Avent and my baby is fine with it
  • Feed small portion but more frequently
  • When feeding via bottle make sure the flow is not too fast – can try medela calma teat for start

Postpartum daily routine.

Shower is allowed but with condition.

  1. Washing hair only allowed on 10th day. Then after every 3 days.
  2. Shower can be done every alternate day.
  3. Only shower with herbs.
  4. Hair must be dry up immediately.

Her rationing with shower is this. Olden day people do not shower because the weather is cold in China. They do not sweat. Since we are staying in Malaysia, despite we are Chinese shouldn’t we look at how the Malay do their confinement? I actually learned a lot from her.

Technically, for the first 6 weeks, I have been direct latching and pumping non stop. So other than makan, minum, tidur urut and feeding, I does nothing else.

You can read more about my post natal care – urut review here.


My Verdict?

Pro: as mentioned above.

Con: She do not help out with house work nor take care of my elder (she said so when I interview her).

I personally like her. For sure, I will engage her for my #3 child, if I have one.


Post-natal care product review

There are so many post natal set in the market which I can’t really decide which to purchase yet.

Most of the post natal set are mostly Malay product and which I don’t really have any close Malay friend that are married and can give advise.

Below are a few that I manage to find and read reviews on, compiled and share my lil thought with you 🙂















Tanamera Postnatal Care Set (RM350-RM400)

Contents are:

1. Feminine Herbal Wash
2. Herbal Bath
3. Herbal Tea
4. Lavender Floral
5. Herbal Massage Oil
6. Cold Press Virgin Coconut Oil
7. Brown Formulation Body Soap
8. Boreh Body Scrub
9. Calming Herbal Blend Paste
10.Firming Herbal Blend Paste
11.Postpartum Binder


Value for money: 6/10
Quality: 8/10
Comment: If you opt to go for traditional massage with Tanamera, you must purchase this product – complete set in order to go for their massage. Their massage package range from RM540 (3 sessions) to RM850 (5 sessions). Each session last about 2.5hours. If you stay within 20km from their shop (subang SS15) then they can actually come to your house for service. You may visit their website for more information or read my blog for their massage review 🙂

AMWay Postnatal Care Set (RM230-RM270)

Contents are:

1. Herbal Douch
2. Herbal Bath
3. Firming Herbal Blend
4. Herbal massage oil for mummy
5. Warming Herbal Blend
6. Calming Herbal Blend
7. Herbal massage oil for baby
8. Postpartum Binder
9. Herbal Tea
10.Capsul after birth 1 & 2


Value for money: 9/10
Quality: 8.5/10
Comment: If you purchase this product, then you may want to really learn up how to use each of this product very carefully as there are many steps to follow. You can read my blog for further guidance and my review on how to use this product as I have actually use this for my confinement. However, different from Tanamera set is that if you purchase this product you can’t go for Tanamera massage because they do not use other product than their own! 😦 Thus, I engage a urut lady for my massage. She is a chinese lady who charge RM480 (4 sessions) or RM800 (8 sessions). This product can easily purchase from any AMWay agent.

Mustika Ratu Postnatal Care Set (RM160-RM200)

Contents are:

1. Galian Parem Wangi
2. Pulih Balung Sumsum
3. Pilis Wangi
4. Tapel Raket Mustika Sejati
5. Parem Segar Sumyah
6. Bubuk Bancar Air Susu
7. Minyak Telon
8. Ginasih Pembersih Wanita
9. Kaplet Mimi Lan Mintuno
10.Minyak Telon
11.Postpartum Binder
12.CD on Postnatal Care


Value for money: 5/10
Quality: 6.5/10
Comment: Personally I did not really use this product but I do have friend given me feedback on this product. She engage a tukang urut (an indonesian) for her massage during her confinement which cost her about RM60 per session. As there are no package, she did about 3 sessions and she stopped because she could not bear the heat during the massage. She mentioned that as she is breastfeeding, the product is a bit too “heaty” for her baby and thus, she only manage to finish less than half of it.

Ibu Halimah Jamu Mak Dara Postnatal Care Set (RM350-RM400)

Contents are:

1. Jamu Mak Dara (Serbuk)
2. Jamu Mak Dara (Kapsul)
3. Losyen Param Ibu Halimah
4. Pilis
5. Bedak Sejuk
6. Rempah Mandi
7. Postpartum Binder
8. Tungku Kukus Herba

Value for money: 6.5/10
Quality: 8/10
Comment: The instruction to use this product can be found at Apparently a lot of Malay friend are using this products. According to their review, this product have prestigious branding and have been available at the market for quite some time. However, most of my chinese have not heard of this product before ~ LOL This product review rating is base on the average compiled review.

Nona Roguy Postnatal Care Set (RM300-RM320)

Contents are:

1. Tablet Phyto Natal
2. Akar Herbanika
3. Herbanika Lulur
4. Herbanika Barut
5. Minyak Herbanika
6. Uncang Cuci

Value for money: 8.5/10
Quality: 9/10
Comment: You notice that his product do not have binder which you have buy your own. For me, I personally think that this is too expensive. However, I do read a lot of good review about this product (not very specific what is the good-thing-about-thou!) and I notice no chinese blog review on this product made me hesitate whether will it be able to go with my chinese herbs.

Let me share the review that I compiled which are and

Amme Complete Postnatal Care Set (RM300-RM400)

Contents are:

1. Ammy Sixty Days capsule (6 botol)
2. Ammy Heat
3. Ammy Massage
4. Oil Of Telon
5. Tummy Tone
6. Body Tone
7. Postpartum Binder

Value for money: 7/10
Quality: 7.5/10
Comment: The instruction to use the product can be found at Let me share the review that I found is Not much review on this product other than it can shed off KG at the fastest rate.


Have a good buy 🙂